Have you ever failed at giving compliments? Unfortunately, most of us have, as it’s so easy to insult a woman with the wrong words, which was initially meant to make her feel good. So, if you’ve got some problems with such “sweet words” or just wanna improve your skills on how to compliment a girl, you’re in the right place.
The power of compliments is invaluable: it’s no secret that women can’t resist when you’re saying how special, beautiful, and intelligent they are. Besides making a lasting impression, according to recent researches, compliments can even help improve performance in a similar way to receiving a cash reward, in other words, they motivate a person quite a lot.(1)
Unfortunately, the art of mastering compliments is not something inborn in men, so that’s something we can learn and practice. However, as soon as you become proficient in it, relations with women turn into a piece of cake. Still don’t believe? Just try to follow these tips, man!
1. Be Sincere
If you don’t believe the compliment, then don’t expect her to – this is the golden rule of giving the best compliments to a woman. Stay genuine and sincere, react naturally and she’ll definitely appreciate it.
2. Don’t Focus On Obvious Things
Be creative – don’t just mention something generic. A compliment on “her beautiful eyes” is absolutely not enough, go further, and focus on less obvious areas for praise in order to make a great impression.
3. Avoid Clichés
Well-known phrases and famous idioms are a red flag when it comes to compliments. Never use thoroughly clichéd sentences if you don’t wish to fail, dude. I mean, all those websites with complimentary quotes are meant for inspiration rather than for direct use.
4. Compliment Her On How Beautiful She Looks
Despite the two previous rules in this list, she’ll never get tired of compliments on how beautiful she looks. And that’s rather fair, as she spends hours dressing up, putting on makeup, styling her hair for your date – so, it’s natural she wants you to notice and appreciate all her efforts.
5. Use Nonverbal Ways
Smile every single time you give her a compliment – stay positive. Also, try staring at her – usually it works even better than words, but it’s a rather challenging and tricky technique. Be careful with gestures as well, if getting into trouble isn’t a part of your plan.
6. Compliment On Her Skills
Praise her for things she does professionally or on what she controls (like education, accomplishments, interactions, her determination).
7. Avoid Sexy Lines On a First Date
Of course, if you don’t know how to make her blush, and it’s your main aim, saying “you look so sexy” is a good one. However, if you’re planning to stay in her memory as a prospective candidate for being her boyfriend or even more, such physical comments shouldn’t be said out loud.
8. Try To Notice Something New
Compliment something new, including a hairstyle, a pair of jeans or a perfume – for her it’s more than words, it’s a sign you really care and pay attention to her. So, take the time to notice the details, and it will be rewarded soon.
9. Make It Personal
Try to make your compliments as specific and unique to her as possible. You’re not the first one to tell her about her “beautiful eyes”, so get creative to show you really care.
10. Don’t Overuse Compliments
All good things are only good if in moderation. Say sweet words only when you’re truly moved to, otherwise, it won’t come across as genuine and she will feel embarrassed or stop reacting to them at all.
11. Be Spontaneous
Don’t turn it into a ritual that you repeat again and again, for example, each time she’s entering the room. Compliments are meant to be a surprising and spontaneous thing, don’t make them down-to-earth, keep some with an intriguing and magical delivery about them.
Don’t say compliments in order to get something in return – women feel this and aren’t particularly fond of these kinds of moves. Consider her smile as the main aim of saying something pleasant and this will be much more rewarding, believe me.
12. Avoid Ambiguous Compliments
Yes, be careful with that. Something like “How beautiful that coat is on you! It’s so slimming!” can sound too offensive to her and end up in an argument or resentment.
13. Don’t Flatter Her Unduly
There is a huge difference between compliment and flattery, and this difference is felt by most people. Follow the rule that flattery is equal to lies with all its consequences. Compliments can embellish the truth, not to contradict it.
Follow these tips to take your relations with women up to the next level. ♥
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