Some product brands are several cuts above the rest. The ones that exceed our expectations and wow us with their top-of-the-line qualities.
The same rationale applies to relationships – everyone wants to find his/her own perfect match, like finding the right website that will write an essay for you.
I’m not only talking about finding successful dudes, or women with great personalities; you also need to be on the lookout if that specific person is in it for the long-run.
A keeper is someone who goes the extra mile just to make you feel appreciated or comforted, and to prove that he/she’s not only looking for the short-run but the Holy Grail of all relationships – marriage.
Have you found a keeper? Below are five traits that such persons exemplify…
#1: Makes a Concerted Effort To Know Your Family
A keeper understands that your world also revolves elsewhere, particularly on people who were long by your side since before he/she came along. (i.e., your main family and clan extension).
With that, this person genuinely makes an effort to get close or accustomed to your family members.
Does she offer to accompany your sister in her shopping? Does she try to impress your mother by assisting her in your family’s traditional Friday dinner? Does he force himself to learn baseball just to impress your dad?
Even the littlest of things like asking deeper questions about your parents or siblings count too. Whatever those acts may be, you should feel that the person has a concern not just for you, but to your family too. It’s like his/her mini preparations for settling in the future.
If the person doesn’t exude the least amount of interest in being acquainted with your family (e.g., seemingly missing family gatherings on purpose, not being enthusiastic enough when introduced to members, etc.), then that’s a clear red flag.
#2: Initiates The Hard Conversations
Only the most caring and genuinely concerned folks can discuss sensitive topics, such as any smoking or drinking habits, bad demeanors, pompous spending habits, or gambling addiction with you (among others). You’re likely to feel uncomfortable or offended while discussing those, but that person will greatly sell the benefits of change for you.
A keeper won’t tolerate your mishaps. Instead, the person wants you to correct those inadequacies to make you a better person, which will also help to make you a worthier spouse in the future.
Does she strongly oppose your smoking? Or is she indifferent about it?
Does he encourage you to make sound investing decisions? Or does he convince you to spend it all on a one-night splurge?
If the person just keeps mum on such delicate topics, then there’s a great chance the person will let you drag yourself down when you’re married.
#3: Still Gives Your Stomach The Butterflies
You’ve been together for years, but the person is still pretty consistent with the long, sweet messages, and surprises every now and then.
A relationship keeper strives to put your mind at ease. He/she guarantees you, even in the most awkward fights and misunderstandings, that they yet care. The person shies away from giving you bad assumptions, knowing that doing so can make you heavily doubt his/her sincerity or loyalty.
Does he still try to win you back romantically during a quarrel? Or is he letting your inbox be ignored without a single message for weeks?
Does she still manifest that gleeful smile when she’s with you? Or does it feel like ‘another date’ with her?
A keeper knows that consistency in making one’s feelings felt is key to alleviate costly misunderstandings. For not doing so is like a breeding ground for marriage, where almost everything is uncertain.
#4: Does What It Takes To Spend Meaningful Time With You
The person will brave the city traffic or postpone otherwise cancellable meetings just to sneak in precious time with you.
Don’t get me wrong. I’m not advocating romantic movie antics, but acts that confirm sincerity and determination about the relationship.
A relationship keeper puts a premium on interaction, whether personal or digital. The person doesn’t want to miss the little victories and stories you have, simply because those are about you.
The person informs you in advance if he/she really couldn’t make it, instead of making you wait for eternity.
#5: Deeply Cherishes You
A relationship keeper didn’t just fall for your superficial aspects (e.g., admirable face, wit, stability, etc.). The person knows and appreciates the real you, which not all people realize.
Above all, the person values your most important facets – your beautiful soul and personality. The person just knows these are the most real things that aren’t bound by time and age.
He/she matches promise with action, loves you passionately, and just won’t give up on you.
As a wrap-up of the plenty relationships, you may have had, only one may be worthy enough for marriage. At times, the little things that your partner does can be enough to inform you that you’ve found ‘the one.’
Never settle. Love hard. Bounce back harder. ♥
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